Killing Comparison

 “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Theodore Roosevelt


 There may be some areas of your life that you’re not thrilled about; such as financial struggles, your single status, problems at work, challenges with your child, lonliness, stress…just to name few possibilites. When these things are pressing heavy on your heart it’s easy to fall into comparison. Looking at others, seeing that they have the very thing your heart longs for or that they don’t have the same difficulties you do is when comparison sneaks in.


Seeing an adorable married couple with thier kids (while you are struggling to parent alone), your friends moving into happy relationships and getting married (while you stay habitually single), a friend getting  hired for her dream job (while you are still trying to figure out your life), coworkers discussing their big summer vacations (while you can’t afford to go anywhere), scrolling through pictures on Instagram of people out with friends having a blast (while you are home alone again)…..And in sleaks comparison.


Comparison doesn’t work alone. It brings its friends jealousy, envy, discontentment, hurt, saddness and pain with it. Even though no one wants to experience these things they come when we compare. Comparison can ignite in an instant and cause long lasting damage. Personally, I am very susceptible to comparison and it has brought a lot of unwanted pain into my life. I know how easy it is to drown under the negative emotions of comparison.


So what can we do to fight against comparison? Here is what I’m trying…


1. Do a Social Media Detox

Social media is one of the biggest ways to invite  comparison into your life. Scrolling through hundreds of perfect pictures of the very thing your heart longs for isn’t easy. Sometimes it just becomes too painful for me. Taking a break from social media helps me take a step away from the temptation of falling into the comparison trap.


2. Write a Daily Grattitude List

I’m a little obsessed with gratitude. I make a list in morning during my quiet time, I write a few things I’m thankful for every day in my planner and my son each say something new are grateful for during our nighty prayer. Grattitude helps keep me tuned into a positive perspective and it reminds me of all God’s sweet blessings that are already in my life.


3. Focus on What Brings You Happiness

Take your focus off what makes others happy (or at least what you think does) and instead focus on what makes you happy. This could be a hobby, a club, a pet or anything. Doing this you will spend less time worrying about others and more time bringing true happiness into your own life.


Doing these 3 things helps kill comparison in my life; which leads to more peace, contentment and joy. What helps YOU overcome comparison?? Leave a comment below!


Until next time, let’s live bright!

July 1, 2019
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  • Reply Anna G

    Love this!!!! I struggle with this type of comparison as you described it at times..but for me lately when scrolling through social media, it’s easy to compare myself to others in a way where it makes me feel bad about myself…for example like seeing ppl do certain fun stuff w kids and I’ll feel guilty and feel bad I’m not doing those things or not being adventurous enough etc..I’ve tried to just in that moment not compare and just focus on them and be happy for them. That has helped…hard to do but helps! And then try to be proud of myself, knowing I’m creating my own kind of joy for my boys!

    July 6, 2019 at 6:11 pm
    • Reply Rebecca

      You are an amazing mom to your boys Anna! I hate that comparison can have such power to have us doubt that (I’ve been there too!). I love that you share you want to live in the moment, that is such a good way to combat comparison! I hope you are doing well and enjoying life with your kiddos. Love you!

      August 27, 2019 at 6:39 am

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